Hey everyone! Today I’m going to change it up a little bit from the usual fashion content and talk about motherhood! I keep on thinking to myself, “how am I going to write this without offending anyone?” because that’s not what my blog is about. At all. I’m all about inclusion and acceptance of others who may not be like yourself. So, I’m going to try to keep this fairly light, although I have very strong beliefs about a lot of subjects on parenthood. And I also want to mention that this is my experience as a mother. This is not for everyone, and that’s just fine. We are all doing the best that we can or know how at the moment.
I know you can scour the internet and find millions of related articles on the subject of “mommy judgement”… especially mother on mother (hate) judgement. Everyone thinks their way is the best way, but in reality every family dynamic is SO different, and only those parents know what’s best for their family. Sounds simple enough, right?! Well no, because one year in I still get the occasional side-eye, eye roll, or straight up “oh” (in a judgmental tone). Usually from women. Yes, I’m a stay-at-home-mom (SAHM)! It’s everything I thought it could be, and more. It’s truly my dream to be home with my babies and spend every moment possible with them. (Ivy is literally climbing all over me and hitting the keyboard as I write this… haha! Now I just took a 5 minute break to play with her and I’m back!) My parenting style is closest related to the Attachment Parenting style. Yes, I liked the job I had before becoming a mother, and I love making money, but nothing in the world would be more fulfilling to me than this right here. OK, so now it sounds like mommy judgement on my end for those women who choose to work. Not at all! Yes, I think what I’m doing is best for my child, but like I said all family dynamics are different. I know lots of wonderful mothers that are working part-time, full-time, and over-time while also raising their kids. I also know a ton of stay-at-home-parents who work their butts off all day everyday without a break. (Hi that’s me! But I embrace that kind of crazy… that’s my kind of cray cray. I love it!) All parents just find what style of crazy works for them.
One more thing while I’m on this subject. I once had a woman (a little younger than myself) tell me about an article she read on stay-at-home-parents and how it’s just an excuse for them to be lazy and not work. WOW! (Insert middle finger emojis here.) I don’t think she was trying to be offensive, just trying to make small talk. But, she was obviously not a mom otherwise she would have known how dumb that sounded. Being a SAHM is more than a full-time job. Being a mom who works outside the home is more than a full-time job too. All moms work their butts off day and night. We are constantly needed, and we don’t ever get a break unless we schedule a break for ourselves. Even going to the bathroom you don’t get alone time! Everyday I’m cooking homemade meals, cleaning, playing, taking my daughter to educational playgroups, teaching my daughter about life, running errands, and trying to build a blog… plus a million more things! I think that no matter if you work outside the home or not, every parent needs to spend good quality time with their kids. We’re raising our future here!!
I don’t want to make this post too long, but I didn’t really dive much into my style of parenting other than the fact that I’m a SAHM. Maybe that will have to be a blog post for another time! If you’d like to read more about Attachment Parenting, go to their website here. I don’t really let people’s judgements get to me anymore, I’m a take it or leave it kind of person. If I helped one more person feel good about all their hard work then mission accomplished! You’re not going to be everyone’s cup of tea. And that’s good cuz you’re a macchiato, baby.
I feel like we all need to do a group hug now and kumbaya (come together)! I have so much love and respect for everyone. We’re all just doing our best, right?! Let me know if you liked this article and if you think I should blog more on this subject!
Xo (and lots of love),
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